Yesterday when I wrote " If I was a perfect wife and mom...", I wrote it because I was feeling sorry for myself. I go through these stages every so often when I feel like my children and sometimes my husband doesn't appreciate everything I do for them or listen to me. I feel like I am taken for granted.
Today, especially after reading JettyBetty's comment to my post "I will be the perfect wife and mom if I had the perfect husband and kids." it hit me! Am I putting the expectation on them to be perfect? Do I expect them to always understand everything I am saying? Do I expect them to keep a perfect room? Do I expect them to always smile at me and say "Yes, m'am"? To never lose their temper? To always tell me they are sorry? Do I want robot children and a robot husband? Well, it is tempting......hmmmm.....but I think life would get really boring fast! Although, my house would be really clean and sparkly. Oh, back to reality........
Of course their is no excuse for bad attitudes and disrespectful talking back, but I can't reasonable expect for that not to happen every once in awhile because they are human. I just need to continue striving to teach them to be respectful, responsible, God-loving children.
I know that many times I have taken my boys and husband for granted. I have not listened to them. I have been disrespectful. I have not appreciated everything they do for me. I have been selfish. I have been angry. And , yes I will admit it, I make mistakes. The list goes on and on and on........
So....today is a new day. "God puts each fresh morning, each new chance of life, into our hands as a gift to see what we will do with it. " Unknown Author
Thank You, Lord, for this new day. Thank you for my precious boys ,my wonderful husband, and my dirty floors and streaked mirrors!
"Take your everday, ordinary life - your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life - and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for Him." Romans 12:1
5 comments:
I fall into the "I'm not appreciated" trap quite often myself. Hard thing for perfectionists like myself. I just need to remember that I'm not perfect and neither are they and that the best things we have are that we are all together and we love each other.
Ashley
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I had it once and then it was gone. Is it a good thing that it ended? Oh Yes! God protected me. But I still miss waking up and hearing someone breath beside me. That is the blessing. You do not realize that until you do not have it. My heart longs for that.
sometimes when i blog, and re-read a previous post, i am holding a mirror up to myself ... and i go "ok i see it differently now" ... kind of a cool teaching method for ourselves, isn't it?
blessings on your life Peg and soon you will be nesting in your new home!
And isn't it wonderful that God loves you, totally and completely, even though you're imperfect and your family is imperfect?
I take comfort in that thought and thought I'd share it. :)
Well, I have been out of it indeed!
The reason I gave that answer--was I had felt the very same way some time back (when the kids were still at home)--as it turned out God showed me about the same thing as you say here--I was the problem--it was pretty sobering--but gave me a new perspective on my family!!
JB
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